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Sametuary • A Sanctuary for the Different

Where do you go when you're...

too much for this world, but not enough for that world?
a trailblazer sans role models? a shooting star... about to fade?

You come here. Put down superwoman cape. And write the truth.

By Ellany Lea   •   Sep 13, 2017   •   5 Min Read

The five times I've done a negative money memory purge, I've burnt the paper and released the past. Before I ran to burn it, I noticed how each scarring incident had, with time, transmuted itself into a lesson or superpower.

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By Ellany Lea   •   Sep 6, 2017   •   5 Min Read

A negative incident related to money can scar or even traumatize a child. Just because our body has aged chronologically, it doesn't mean the child has recovered from the incident. It could take days, but more often, it takes decades.

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By Ellany Lea   •   Aug 30, 2017   •   5 Min Read

The first time I did a negative money memory purge, I burnt 148 memories. Second time, I burnt 62. Third time, there were 36 memories. These 36 memories helped me see how some lessons take days, but most take decades.

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By Ellany Lea   •   Aug 23, 2017   •   6 Min Read

I lined up 5 interviews in 5 days in NYC. On day 5 I, got a job offer, found an apartment, flew home on day 6, packed and moved my life to NYC on day 7. No faffin' around!

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By Ellany Lea   •   Aug 16, 2017   •   5 Min Read

"We don't have to do all of it alone. We were never meant to." – Brené Brown. This marketing thing, you can't do it alone. You were never meant to. Here are top 3 lessons fom branding genius, Anne Scott. Fainting included.

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By Ellany Lea   •   Aug 9, 2017   •   5 Min Read

This is how I meet my Leadership tribes... Firstly, it took me about a year to complete the CTI coach training (instead of regular 5 months) because people in my life kept dying and nothing grows in the swampland of grief.

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By Ellany Lea   •   Aug 2, 2017   •   6 Min Read

My lifestyle was co-created. With courage. Which came from my tribe. This part I didn't do alone. The fear was shed solo. With much pain. Which was made possible with love from my tribe. This part I had to do alone.

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By Ellany Lea   •   Jul 26, 2017   •   2 Min Read

Whenever I feel frazzled, like I'm revving the gas pedal with the hand break on, I turn to: the Serenity Prayer, the Ho'oponopono and a lesser known prayer by Teresa of Avila. They actually work, who knew!

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By Ellany Lea   •   Jul 19, 2017   •   4 Min Read

Sometimes, sisterhood falls from the sky. Just when you need her. Other times, YOU need to break the rules, follow illogical breadcrumbs and find your sisterhood.

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By Ellany Lea   •   Jul 12, 2017   •   3 Min Read

To be free, to be the best entrepreneur you can be, you need to care for the vehicle / body that contains your genius, ideas and talent. If you don't, who will?

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By Ellany Lea   •   Jul 5, 2017   •   7 Min Read

I heard a shocking statistic: 80% of women-lead businesses don't make it past 5 years. Tis February 22 was the 5 year mark that graced my coaching practice into the 20%. Oh the number of times I cried mercy!

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By Ellany Lea   •   Jun 28, 2017   •   4 Min Read

When people are in fear, they label adventure as reckless, courage as crazy and uniqueness as wrong. May the spotted rays in the Belizean cayes and the aurora borealis in the Norwegian tundra enchant you more than the criticism-laced fear of “those people.”

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By Ellany Lea   •   Jun 21, 2017   •   3 Min Read

After stepping foot in 104 sovereign nations, with my coaching practice in tow, here are 14 lessons I learned, across so many cultures, about becoming happy, about being happy.

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By Ellany Lea   •   Jun 7, 2017   •   45 Min Listen

Digital Nomad Mastery is a podcast featuring digital nomads who have earned location independence. They share their journeys to build support and community for those following in their footsteps.

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By Ellany Lea   •   May 31, 2017   •   3 Min Read

"These mountains that you are carrying, you were only supposed to climb." ― Najwan Zebian

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By Ellany Lea   •   May 24, 2017   •   3 Min Read

Wait, what?!? You mean to say, that children don't buy cars and townhouses for their parents, do family taxes at 14, oversee all legal and fiduciary duties at 16, pay their parents mortgage at 18, and raise their parents?

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By Ellany Lea   •   May 17, 2017   •   3 Min Read

Regret is a great teacher... once we get over the rabid raccoon phase of frothing at the mouth, fists in the air, cursing at the heavens, ugly crying "Why Me?" Here are 4 more personal regrets.

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By Ellany Lea   •   May 10, 2017   •   3 Min Read

Presenting: four regrets I hope you don't have and three obvious traits of woman entrepreneur chasing their own tail, doing things that aren't useful and avoiding the things that are

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By Ellany Lea   •   Apr 26, 2017   •   4 Min Read

Entrepreneurship is like dating. When you're dating your business, are you still flirting with other businesses? Or worse yet, are you getting into bed with your old corporate job? :O

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By Ellany Lea   •   Mar 8, 2017   •   5 Min Read

Would you? Would you run into the red light on a big avenida, red light, after red light, after red light? Just to get home. What I learned about courage from a circus performer who did just that!

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By Ellany Lea   •   Feb 8, 2017   •   3 Min Read

A 10-day silent meditation retreat is like elective surgery. You know it'll make your life better, but you know there will be pain! Parts of me died at that retreat... Death is good for business!

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By Ellany Lea   •   Dec 28, 2016   •   2 Min Read

Less is not more. Less is better. Go-getters and overachievers don't need more stress, more busyness, more overwhelm. We need better. We need happiness. Take the test!

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By Ellany Lea   •   Dec 21, 2016   •   2 Min Read

It's not every day that you decide to legally change your first AND last name. No marriage, no divorce, just because you want your insides to match your outsides. Here's what you can expect.

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By Ellany Lea   •   Dec 14, 2016   •   5 Min Read

Being free and feeling are two similar, but different things. I can close my eyes and feel free, but once I open them, I am not free. These are 5 top priority ways to actually BE free.

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By Ellany Lea   •   Dec 7, 2016   •   4 Min Read

You know Maslow, right? And his pyramid-shaped hierarchy of needs. For women overachievers, it's not so much a pyramid of needs, but more an Inukshuk of needs.

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By Ellany Lea   •   Nov 30, 2016   •   3 Min Read

The "it" factor is the sweet spot where calling, profession, vocation, mission and passion overlap. Meet 3 types of overachieving women entrepreneurs who don't quite have "it": The Replicator, The Hobbyist, and The Leaper.

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By Ellany Lea   •   Nov 23, 2016   •   6 Min Read

Have you ever wondered, "Do I have a right to my sob story?" I've not been a war refugee or I haven't lost a child. But these PTSD symptoms match my symptoms.

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By Ellany Lea   •   Nov 16, 2016   •   7 Min Read

Do you chronically feel unsafe, like a tiger is going to eat you? I'm sharing my private Somatic Experiencing journal entries. May they illuminate your path, thaw your body, and liberate your soul.

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By Ellany Lea   •   Nov 9, 2016   •   5 Min Read

But I'm not a war veteran, how can I possibly have PTSD? Well, trauma is trauma. The nervous doesn't distinguish between the trauma from a bomb and the trauma from grief or neglect.

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By Ellany Lea   •   Oct 29, 2016   •   5 Min Read

Freedom never dies, but people do, parts of us do. There's an unexpected well of power hidden within betrayal, grief and death. Let's see what it can do!

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By Megan Murphy and Ellany Lea   •   Jul 27, 2016   •   23 Min Listen

Lisa Serice is a Singer / Songwriter / Performer / School teacher / Fitness practitioner / Certified AntiGravity Yoga instructor.

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By Megan Murphy and Ellany Lea   •   Jul 13, 2016   •   25 Min Listen

Erin Sullivan is an end-of-life care practitioner / hospice volunteer / children's author / advocate / meditation facilitator / yoga instructor / author / expert napper / deep encourager / loving friend.

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By Megan Murphy and Ellany Lea   •   Jun 29, 2016   •   28 Min Listen

Linda Kash is a TV director / Movie actress / Stage actress / Comedian / Writer / Radio co-host / Co-founder of the Peterborough Academy of Performing Arts / Improv teacher / Mom / Warrior.

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By Megan Murphy and Ellany Lea   •   Jun 15, 2016   •   20 Min Listen

Jobina Bardai is a Dancer / Choreographer / Coach / Teacher / Magic-maker / Wanderer / Explorer / Friend / Sister / Daughter.

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By Megan Murphy and Ellany Lea   •   Jun 1, 2016   •   21 Min Listen

Stephanie is a Scientist / Astrophysicist / Researcher / Artist / Painter / Rock climber.

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By Megan Murphy and Ellany Lea   •   May 18, 2016   •   22 Min Listen

Karen Olson is a Leadership Coach / Retreat Leader / Art-o-mancy Trainer / Energetic Literacy Advocate / Writer.

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By Megan Murphy and Ellany Lea   •   May 4, 2016   •   20 Min Listen

Brianna is a Social Worker / Researcher / Educator / Writer / Heart Coach / Dee-jay / Dancer / Spirited World Wanderer / Yogi / Feminist.

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By Megan Murphy and Ellany Lea   •   Apr 27, 2016   •   20 Min Listen

Carly is a Writer / Photographer / Banker / Traveller / Snail Mail Enthusiast / Curator for Handwritten / Old Soul.

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By Ellany Lea   •   Feb 24, 2016   •   4 Min Read

Once in a blue moon, I run into someone in person or by e-mail who doesn't know that I legally changed my name, first and last. They of course want to know why.

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By Ellany Lea   •   Jan 20, 2016   •   5 Min Read

School beat beat the love of words out of me. I didn't read or write a single word between April 30, 2005 (the day I wrote my last university exam) and May 6, 2011 (the day I bought my home by the beach).

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By Ellany Lea   •   Dec 2, 2015   •   5 Min Read

How is it even possible for a small human body to cry so many tears? How is there even space inside the cells to store so much pain and grief? I finally figured out why!

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By Ellany Lea   •   Nov 25, 2015   •   7 Min Read

When grief strikes, death follows. Even during death, there is light, there is an orchestrated beauty already set up: a glorious sunset from 35,000 feet, as I flew to saying goodbye to my baba.

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By Ellany Lea   •   Nov 18, 2015   •   7 Min Read

Working from a beach is not nearly as glamorous as I imagined. I'm sweaty, I can't see my bright screen, and sand is crawling into my keyboard. Then there's story of The iPhone and The Ocean.

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By Ellany Lea   •   Oct 28, 2015   •   4 Min Read Time

Definitely nobody told me that witnessing and feeling your old self die off would be a slow torment and that I'd be awake during the whole thing... while running a business, championing clients, planning a 13-country world tour... Nobody!

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By Ellany Lea   •   Sep 23, 2015   •   2 Min Read

One friend suggested we start a "My Husband Just Can’t Keep Up" club / support group. We laughed, and quickly realized that we preferred a "I have done all the required self work to attract a husband who CAN keep up" club.

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By Ellany Lea   •   Jul 1, 2015   •   1 Min Read

If you were given a chance to take a $1,000,000 dream trip around the world, but you had two hours to pack and take your business with you, could you? What would you take with you?

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By Ellany Lea   •   Jun 10, 2015   •   6 Min Read

Before hiring a coach who has the potential to forever alter your life, you need to know the difference between coach, mentor, trainer and consultant. You need to know what you need.

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By Ellany Lea   •   May 20, 2015   •   3 Min Read

Suddenly, I was engulfed by a tidal wave of sadness. It's sad. It's so very sad that I was conditioned to not prosper. I had no say over it. I had not control over it. It wasn't my doing or my fault.

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By Ellany Lea   •   May 13, 2015   •   2 Min Read

This is the year the Universe bitch slaps you in the face, strips away everything you thought you held dear, so that you wake up to what really matters. This is also the year where you realize that your life HAD to happen this way.

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By Ellany Lea   •   May 6, 2015   •   2 Min Read

You vowed to yourself after these 2 years to never capitulate again to soul-sucking circumstances, jobs or people. Well, I hate to break it to you, but you WILL break this vow. A few times...

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By Ellany Lea   •   Apr 29, 2015   •   3 Min Read

"In the end, only 3 things matter. How much you loved, how gently you lived and how gracefully you let go of things not meant for you." – Buddha

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By Ellany Lea   •   Apr 22, 2015   •   2 Min Read

"It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all - in which case, you fail by default.” – J.K. Rowling

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By Ellany Lea   •   Apr 8, 2015   •   5 Min Read

I once saw an energy healer who told me that my soul has fulfilled all of its reincarnations purposes. I’ve paid my dues. So now, I get to choose if I want to come back into physical form or not :O What?!? They don't tell you that in B-school!

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By Ellany Lea   •   Mar 11, 2015   •   6 Min Read

On day 89, I resigned. One day before my probation ended. [...] What I gained instead was my will to live, my freedom, and the expression of my life’s purpose on Earth. IHow much would you pay for your will to live?

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By Ellany Lea   •   Jan 28, 2015   •   4 Min Read

Dream big, have a selfish month, learn to say no, block your time, setup a routine, take an inventory of your plate, and one more important key to free time.

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By Ellany Lea   •   Jan 5, 2015   •   4 Min Read

It's great to be an ambitious, driven go-getting gal! You go, you get, but are you really... getting? Are you getting what other happy AND prosperous go-getters are getting?

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By Ellany Lea   •   Oct 8, 2014   •   5 Min Read

Shame is "I am not enough." Guilt is "I did not do enough." Shame and guilt like holding hands, skipping around the playground of our minds. Asian parents who demand perfection don't help...

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By Ellany Lea   •   Oct 1, 2014   •   3 Min Read

Financial freedom has very little to do with dollars and cents. It's more the result of having unshackled layers up on layers of emotional, psychological, somatic, and spiritual prisons.

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By Ellany Lea   •   Feb 26, 2013   •   7 Min Read

Are you plagued by "Now what?!?" every time you achieve at a huge milestone? You thought you'd be on cloud nine, instead you feel empty and lost? Here's how to turn it around!

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