Back to top

I'm in Georgetown, Guyana, and there's not much to do here. So it's given me plenty of time to cross-reference a tidy table of the 14 differences I've observed in my clients, what 14 habits differentiates happy from unhappy overachievers.


Less is better

You know the saying "Less is more"? I don't agree. Less is not more. Less is simply better.

Unhappy Overachievers

Happy Overachievers

Don't sleep, don't play, achieve more, achieve more, achieve more


Sleep, play, reflect to protect and nurture self and the ability to achieve
Commit to everything Discern top 3 important priorities from a flurry of distractions before committing
Run around with a fire extinguisher putting out other people's fire Navigate their life by following their inner North Star
Say yes to everyone out of guilt or awkwardness (then resent everyone) Say no gracefully, knowing that no is a full sentence
Find creative ways to do it all Choose a few things to go big on
See choice as a loss, as a deprivation (FOMO) See choice as a trade off: say no to the good to say yes to the great
Don't set boundaries for fear of being disliked Set empowering boundaries in advance so no need to say no later
People please to be liked or popular, or to fit in Forego short-term popularity for long-term respect
Are victims of sunken cost (I've already invested so much, if I just put in more, I can make it work!) Know when to cut their loses (What else could I do with my time and resources?)
Procrastinate and blindly assumes the best case scenario Prepare buffers and cushions for a rainy day
Focus on past regrets (depression) and future worries (anxiety) Focus on the NOW and practices presence
Wander aimlessly on a vague / materialistic goal (eg. I want to help people / I want a bigger boat) Take action based on clear, inspiring, and meaningful dreams (eg. I want all children to have a home)
Throw around lofty goals and intentions which lead to small results Consistently take action on small achievable goals and celebrates every small progress until the finish line
When things go awry, add more quick fixes or random projects When things go awry, stop and radically remove more busyness, obligations and projects


What Next?

What's your score out of 14? Are you a happy overachiever or unhappy overachiever?

With infinite grace,

xo, Ella

Women who are free will set the world free

Subscribe  to Guide to Grace for freedom truths + tools

Ellany LeaAUTHOR • When Ellany said yes to freedompreneurship, she had no idea it'd turn into a spiritual quest of reclaiming the 1,000 pieces of her soul.