I'm in Georgetown, Guyana, and there's not much to do here. So it's given me plenty of time to cross-reference a tidy table of the 14 differences I've observed in my clients, what 14 habits differentiates happy from unhappy overachievers.
Less is better
You know the saying "Less is more"? I don't agree. Less is not more. Less is simply better.
|Don't sleep, don't play, achieve more, achieve more, achieve more
|Sleep, play, reflect to protect and nurture self and the ability to achieve|
|Commit to everything||Discern top 3 important priorities from a flurry of distractions before committing|
|Run around with a fire extinguisher putting out other people's fire||Navigate their life by following their inner North Star|
|Say yes to everyone out of guilt or awkwardness (then resent everyone)||Say no gracefully, knowing that no is a full sentence|
|Find creative ways to do it all||Choose a few things to go big on|
|See choice as a loss, as a deprivation (FOMO)||See choice as a trade off: say no to the good to say yes to the great|
|Don't set boundaries for fear of being disliked||Set empowering boundaries in advance so no need to say no later|
|People please to be liked or popular, or to fit in||Forego short-term popularity for long-term respect|
|Are victims of sunken cost (I've already invested so much, if I just put in more, I can make it work!)||Know when to cut their loses (What else could I do with my time and resources?)|
|Procrastinate and blindly assumes the best case scenario||Prepare buffers and cushions for a rainy day|
|Focus on past regrets (depression) and future worries (anxiety)||Focus on the NOW and practices presence|
|Wander aimlessly on a vague / materialistic goal (eg. I want to help people / I want a bigger boat)||Take action based on clear, inspiring, and meaningful dreams (eg. I want all children to have a home)|
|Throw around lofty goals and intentions which lead to small results||Consistently take action on small achievable goals and celebrates every small progress until the finish line|
|When things go awry, add more quick fixes or random projects||When things go awry, stop and radically remove more busyness, obligations and projects|
What's your score out of 14? Are you a happy overachiever or unhappy overachiever?