SYMPTOMS + PERPETUATING BEHAVIORS
Do you recognize these symptoms or behaviors that perpetuate the wound?
🌀 Design my entire life inside chronic self-sufficiency and/or addictions (eg. workaholism), thus further isolating myself.
🌀 Contort self to be what others want, so to be loved, accepted and/or validated.
🌀 Overstay relationships that I’ve long outgrown because I can’t bear ending up alone and/or abandoning others.
🌀 Often feel left out or left behind personally and/or professionally (eg. last one picked for dodge ball, first one laid off from team).
🌀 Lingering sense of discontentment with where I am in life and what I have.
🌀 Avoid joining communities, so to abandon others before they can abandon me.
🌀 Leave relationships during conflict rather than stay to resolve misunderstanding and deepen intimacy.
False Identities to Release
🗝 I am alone
🗝 I am not wanted
🗝 I am abandoned
Maturation + Integration Practices
If you do recognize yourself in this identity matrix, here are some practices to maturate and integrate that wounded child.
🌹 Practice embodying gratitude by deeply seeing / appreciating everything that I already have.
🌹 Maturate my capacity for reading the room and understanding the subtleties of social cues.
🌹 Stay and work through challenges without severing connections or stunting my own growth.
Viewed through sacred lenses, my wounds become my greatest gift.
– ELLANY LEA