SYMPTOMS + PERPETUATING BEHAVIORS
Do you recognize these symptoms or behaviors that perpetuate the wound?
🌀 Stay small and mousy, so not to make noise, make waves or bother anyone.
🌀 Extraordinarily capable and self-reliant, rarely creating support systems that allow others to give to me, thus feeling alone and isolated (curse of self-sufficiency).
🌀 Feel obligated to jump in and rescue / fix everything that is wrong, unable not to.
🌀 Lack trust, unable to lean on others, fearing enormity my needs / desires.
🌀 Heard parents often argue loudly and/or violently about (lack of) money.
🌀 Rarely express most vulnerable self.
🌀 Live minimally, even depriving self, so not to burden spouse, parents, work, nature.
False Identities to Release
🗝 I am a bother
🗝 It’s best if I’m gone
🗝 I am a burden
Maturation + Integration Practices
If you do recognize yourself in this identity matrix, here are some practices to maturate and integrate that wounded child.
🌹 Select relationships that are equally giving and receiving, where neither is a burden to the other.
🌹 Connect deeply and welcome with love my feelings / needs / desires, knowing they are valid, reasonable, and essential to my well being and to the blossoming of the world.
🌹 Fulfill my own needs / desires which empowers self to see my true strength.
Viewed through sacred lenses, my wounds become my greatest gift.
– ELLANY LEA