How've you been? The beginning of the year was turbulent, many of you have told me. And now that summer is here, it's a little more settled. But not completely settled, at the same time. 🤪🥊
Many wisdom kernels have been popcorn-ing lately so without trying to string them all up into a perfectly popcorn-to-cranberry ratio'ed holiday garland, here is some early summer grace, in the form of a truth biscuit and a bedtime story :D
Truth Biscuit cookie
You WILL host webinars with ZERO attendees.
You WILL launch products with ZERO buyers.
You WILL sell programs with ZERO participants.
As hard as it is to swallow, hence the truth biscuit , these are rites of passage for a freedompreneur.
Just like we lose our baby teeth, get our first period, face the fact that we can no longer eat junk food without consequences on our body, these ZEROs are a very true reality for your earlier stages of freedompreneurship.
And of course not many talk about it. It’s so much easier to sell fantasy promises of “$90k in 90 days” or “7-figures in 7 weeks” than to sell the challenging truth: "failure" is a necessary rite of passage to enter the Queendom of Freedom. So many just want to skip over it. You can't.
The good news is, if you keep going, the next time, 2 people will attend your webinars, then 6, then 20, then 51, then 106, then hundreds, then thousands! Same is true with sales.
But the longer you resist these first rites of passage, also labeled by the ego as “failures”, the longer YOU prolong your OWN suffering.
Stop the suffering. Just "fail" already, get it over with so you can move on to greater contribution, greater personal freedom and greater global liberation!
1,000 RECLAMATIONS FOR FREEDOM
💎 Reclaimed a deep acceptance that failure is a necessary rite of passage
💎 Reclaimed the seeing that my unrelenting persistence is a high valued force of nature
Do you know the fable The Tortoise and the Hare? Anyone can do hare. Anyone can have a burst of ideas, inspiration, shiny object syndrome, or squirrel!
But not everyone can do tortoise, with a Buddha smile on the their face, peace in their heart, joy in their bones and tra-la-la, tra-la-la arrive at the finish line with ease and grace.
Example: From a few Vipassana 11-day silent meditation retreats, I've observed this: when the teacher recommends 1hr of meditation in the morning and 1hr of meditation at night, the majority will go home and do that on Day 1.
Then by Day 2, "real life" sets in and one of those 1hr session vanishes. Then by Day 3, the other 1hr session falls off the wagon. And by Day 4, whether they know it or not, the forcing, whipping, guilt, feeling like a failure, stories of shame/unworthiness set in, bit by bit.
On Day 5, they decide, "Right. I'm gonna start over. 1hr in the morning, 1hr at night." And when one of those 1hr session vanishes, again, and ther other 1hr session falls off the wagon, again, the sense of failure, guilt, even shame roots deeper. Bit by bit.
Enthusiasm is common. Endurance is rare.
– Angela Duckworth
Time passes, then on Day 10, they'll try once more, with feeling! And it's a self-fulfilling prophecy of failure, guilt and/or shame. I lovingly call this the hare approach, blasting out the gate with hyper enthusiasm, but not being able to sustain the practice, especially not with ease and grace. As Angela Duckworth says, "Enthusiasm is common. Endurance is rare."
I took the tortoise approach. On Day 1, I meditate for 15min at night. I did this for 30 days. When I was sure I mastered that 15min consistently, meaning my mind, heart, body and soul were all on board, in the same wagon, on the same train, along the same track, then I increased it to 30min every night. I did that for another 45 days.
I KNEW, I just KNEW that if I tried to increase that any sooner, several of my parts would retaliate and press the big red "Self Destruct" button. Then when I mastered that, I increased my meditations to 45min. I did that for 4 days and had to stop.
I had to bring it back down to 35min, because I could feel the ego taking out the barb-wired whip, raising its arm, and ready to shred apart my meditation practice.
After about 2 months of 35min nightly meditations and repeatedly toning down the "You suck! You should have mastered 1hr in the morning AND 1hr at night like the teacher ordered on Day 1" shouting in my head, I increased it to 40min. (Not 45min. Not yet.)
Three months later, I attempted 15min in the morning and 45min at night. Then 3 months after that, I upgraded to 20min in the morning and 50min at night. Then 4 months later, 30min in the morning and 1hr at night.
Now two full years later since my first Vipassana meditation retreat, I meditate 2hrs a day, whenever, wherever, sitting, standing, lying down, walking. It's a miracle!
And hold on to your bedspread for the stories I'll be sharing with you in the weeks to come about the most transcendental and wholesome mystical experiences I've had thanks to this tortoise approach. I've seen things, experienced things and KNOW things that I'm CERTAIN you'll want to know too.
1,000 RECLAMATIONS FOR FREEDOM
💎 Reclaimed my tortoise nature that slow and steady wins the race
💎 Reclaimed the clairvoyance of my ego’s self-destruction whip
💎 Reclaimed the mastery of dissociating from the voice of shame
💎 Reclaimed the power of patience and persistence