SYMPTOMS + PERPETUATING BEHAVIORS
Do you recognize these symptoms or behaviors that perpetuate the wound?
🌀 Extremely high expectations of self/others to be good, perfect, altruistic at all times.
🌀 Vacillate between extreme perfectionism and extreme rebellion/non-conformity.
🌀 Take on others’ poor behavior as my own fault, enabling them to avoid personal responsibility and accountability.
🌀 Act as heroic martyr who fixes problems (real or imaginary) in order to feel good about self and establish self-worth.
🌀 Suffer from all or nothing thinking, with little room for infractions by self / others.
🌀 Prone to comparing worst of self to best of others, thus reducing own worth.
🌀 Vacillate between victim “everything is my fault” and blame “everything is your fault”.
False Identities to Release
🗝 I am bad
🗝 I am wrong
🗝 I am a mistake
Maturation + Integration Practices
If you do recognize yourself in this identity matrix, here are some practices to maturate and integrate that wounded child.
🌹 Work smarter, not harder. Choose depth over speed. Pull back to launch forward.
🌹 Give self permission / time / space to dream big again from the depths of childhood innocence.
🌹 Only enter relationships that feel mutually supportive of each other’s fulfillment and success.
Viewed through sacred lenses, my wounds become my greatest gift.
– ELLANY LEA