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At this point on my globetrotting journeys, I mastered being a digital nomad, traveling 20 countries in 16 weeks. So I figured, why stop? I always wanted to visit Argentina, which didn't make it onto Around-the-World 2005 trip because Star Alliance didn't have an airline partner down there. Also on my Facebook feed, I happen to see that one of my former interns-turned-friends now lives in Columbia, countries no. 60 and 61, here I come!
At the end of my work term in Rwanda, I didn't have the chance to visit the Mountain Gorillas, which I had diligently saved up for, because the ministry that issued work permits held my passport until the Friday before I flew out of the country Saturday morning.
I was asked if I always dreamed of visiting every country in the world. "Not at all!", was my answer. All I knew growing up was that I was to born to be my parent's retirement savings account. Read along to see and witness this freedom experiment unfolding, as I following the breadcrumbs Life laid out for me, from crossroad to crossroad, from breadcrumb to breadcrumb.
I was sat at a restaurant, listening to the sound of crashing waves, and examined more fully the Memory Dress by Sunvibes that I had custom printed and designed. I passed my fingers over the palm trees that drew me to move to Andalusía in Spain, the lanterns from The Daring Way training with Brené Brown that guided me to complete my 16 country in 16 weeks tour even though my dad passed away at country no. 3, the turtles I swam with who gave me full permission to return aaaaaall the grief I carried for myself and others to the ocean in the form of tears.
Many years ago, I was sitting in my living room, on my furry regal purple rug. I plugged my neon green earphones into my iPhone, took out a white sheet of paper and a teal pen and dialled my coach. I was in my first year of building my coaching business and drowning under punishing anxiety, caused by fear of uncertainty, and worn down by the "marketing grind", with a looming (but illusionary) threat of going back to a 9-to-5 jail cell.
Over a decade ago, when I lined up 5 interviews in 5 days in NYC, got my dream job on day 6, flew home to Vancouver on day 7, and moved my life to
If any past, present or future critics ask, "Why are you going so fast?", ask them "Why are you going so slow?"
If any past, present or future critics ask, "Why are you constantly changing?", ask them, "Why are you prolonging your own suffering?"
If any past, present or future critics ask, "Why can’t you stay still?", ask them, "What are you waiting for?"
There is an art and a science to non-conformity... as well as a price... and many, many, many rewards... and multiple soul wrenching trade-offs along the way. It's an intricate (aka neurotic) dance. Freedom is the dream. But freedom isn't for sissies.
16. The Universe planted sequoias of ambition in my psyche, but gave me a bleeding heart.
17. The Universe pumped adventure into my lungs, but clipped my canary wings.
18. The Universe encoded freedom into my soul, but shackled every limb with gender, filial piety, birth order, personality, cultural, and social chains.
1. Girls will hurt each other until they become women. 2. Watching the light dim is heartbreaking. 3. Becoming aware of the dimming is even more heartbreaking.
In the end, you will splish and splash with dolphins in St. Kitts, salsa with giant manta rays in Antigua and be a giant walking ball of disbelief that THIS is how it feels to do whatever YOU want, whenever YOU want, wherever YOU want, however YOU want, without anyone else interfering with their own 2 cents of fear or negativity.
Is this bliss? It this total liberation? After 110 countries, you'll know it's both.
When people are in fear, they label adventure as reckless, courage as crazy and uniqueness as wrong. May the spotted rays in the Belizean cayes and the aurora borealis in the Norwegian tundra enchant you more than the criticism-laced fear of “those people.”
After stepping foot in 104 sovereign nations, with my coaching practice in tow, here are 14 lessons I learned, across so many cultures, about becoming happy, about being happy.
This is Part 2/2 of What Marketing Stra
Every business needs a welcome video that encapsulates who you are, what you do, who your business is (brand) and what it does.
Those with an unhealed inner orphan behave with money exactly like adopted children behave with food. Adopted children raised in scarcity, even if adopted into secure loving homes, continue to hoard half eaten apples under their beds or binge on meals thinking there won't be any more coming. Can you relate?
When we daydreamed about, stumbled upon or leapt into entrepreneurship, never did we ever declare, "When I grow up, I want to be sooooo busy that I end up in the hospital!"
Yet, in our fast paced, comparison prone culture, as we attempt to navigate business, we often get swept up by busyness, the illusion that if we just do more (even if it's random and unnecessary), we will be worth more... in the eyes of others.
This lesson guides founders, overachievers, trailblazers and entrepreneurs on:
- how to shift your relationship with time and
- how to set your business up for success by creating more free time.
So I wonder what the telling of a Liberator's Journey would look like... From thousands of conversations, interviews and coaching sessions with our tribe of women founders, overachievers and trailblazers, this is what I've discovered :O
Last week, I wrote about Joseph Campbell's The Hero's Journey and how it fits with lifestyle freedom for us globetrotting overachieving women freedompreneurs.
My mind understood his model, but my heart knew something was missing. I found THE missing piece when a coaching colleague posted a quote from Maureen Murdock's The Heroine's Journey. Boom!
Do you know Joseph Campbell's The Hero's Journey? I've been on this loopy loop many times when I moved to Rwanda, uprooted my entire life to NYC in 7 days, took my coaching business to 16 countries in 16 weeks...
When you convert strangers into clients, it's a hit or miss. It's a binary relationship: yay or nay. Most of the time, it's a nay.
When you convert strangers into friends, it's always a hit. Friends like friends. Friends get value from friends. It's a quantum relationship in every direction! They stay friends, tell others about your work, become loyal readers, transform into raving fans, serve as word of mouth marketing, and maybe even become clients someday... because you read their minds and gave them what they needed... not because you tried to sell them something.