Wounded Child Archetypes are clusters of beliefs, thoughts, emotions and behaviors based on a false identity absorbed in childhood. You are not a wounded child. You have a wounded child inside. (Some have more than one.)

Want to lead a revolution, unleash a masterpiece, attain mastery, or liberate yourself / this world? 🔥 Then identify your top Wounded Child Archetypes to make a fuel change and reclaim your energy, peace, time, and freedom. ⤵︎

Wound	Archetype	Fueled By
1 • "Not enough" Wounds	Failure, Deprived, Insufficient	Guilt, Scarcity, Shame
2 • "Too much" Wounds	Freak, Burden, Too Much	Self-disgust, Self-pity (SI), Repressed anger
3 • Neglect Wounds	Unsafe, Powerless, Mistake	Fear, Despair, Dehumanization
4 • Existence Wounds	Invisible, Abandoned, Disposable	Apathy, Grief, Self-hatred

There are 12 Wounded Child Archetypes, each with their own:

• false identities to release
  
• symptoms + perpetuating behaviors
• unintended impact
• healing mantras
• gifts of the wound, and
• maturation + integration practices.

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1 • "Not enough" Wounds

Archetype	False Identity	Fueled By
Failure Child	I don’t do enough	Guilt
Deprived Child	I don't have enough	Scarcity
Insufficient Child	I am not enough	Shame

Symptoms + Perpetuating Behaviors

• Always say yes and take on more than I can handle, stressing self to the max
• Fall off the face of the earth when I start to notice that I can’t meet all my promises
• Use extreme busyness or disorganization to sabotage my own success / well-being
  
• ... 11 more in Wounded Child Archetypes guidebook in Unleash Your Freedom masterclass

Unintended Impact on Others

• Others feel that my failure ripple effects onto their success and/or well-being
• Others feel deeply disappointed highly frustrated with me because I don’t meet their expectations
• Others get excited about my ideas, but lose confidence and/or stop investing in me when there’s poor follow-through
  
• ... 3 more in Wounded Child Archetypes guidebook in Unleash Your Freedom masterclass

Gifts of the Wound

• Carries a revolutionary spirit that draws many in to unite against the status quo
• Deep empathy, compassion and acceptance of people / their limitations
• Extremely creative and resourceful, with outside-the-box thinking / solutions
• ... 2 more in Wounded Child Archetypes guidebook in Unleash Your Freedom masterclass

Maturation + Integration Practices

• Know my capacity and stop overextending myself beyond my “sweet spot”
• Name and honor my truest values, shedding cultural / parental indoctrination
• Set and maintain boundaries based on realistic and limited resources (time, money, focus)
• ... 4 more in Wounded Child Archetypes guidebook in Unleash Your Freedom masterclass

Ellany's Opportestiny^™

OPPORTUNITY Heal human stunting	+	TEST Reclaim self-esteem	+	DESTINY Transmit humane-ness
What's YOUR OPPORTESTINTY™?

Symptoms + Perpetuating Behaviors

• Carry belief that I'm not allowed to have and/or I need to be poor to be good
• Chronically borrow against my own well-being by over-working and under-earning
• Crushed under weight of scarcity, never enough to go around
• ... 10 more in Wounded Child Archetypes guidebook in Unleash Your Freedom masterclass

Unintended Impact on Others

• Others neglect my needs/desires or don’t even know that I have needs/desires since they’ve never seen me tend to them
• Others don’t reciprocate my acts of generosity, even though they give to others
• Others feel exhausted or drained by my frantic way of life
• ... 3 more in Wounded Child Archetypes guidebook in Unleash Your Freedom masterclass

Gifts of the Wound

• Deep compassion and solidarity for the underdog or minority
• Pure heart of service, with powerful gifts that bless all the world
• Extremely generous and kind to all
• ... 2 more in Wounded Child Archetypes guidebook in Unleash Your Freedom masterclass

Maturation + Integration Practices

• Generate evergreen structures for prosperity and become a trustworthy guardian of wealth
• Increase my worth, celebrate my accomplishments and raise the value/price of what I offer
• Ask others for what I need / desire in compelling ways and expand my capacity to receive
• ... 4 more in Wounded Child Archetypes guidebook in Unleash Your Freedom masterclass

Ellany's Opportestiny^™

OPPORTUNITY Heal human greed	+	TEST Reclaim deservingness	+	DESTINY Transmit choice
What's YOUR OPPORTESTINTY™?

Symptoms + Perpetuating Behaviors

• Rarely content because life is ruled by impossibly high standards of perfection
• Chronically over-give, over-do and over-compensate for crumbs of validation
• Organize life around duty over thriving
• ... 12 more in Wounded Child Archetypes guidebook in Unleash Your Freedom masterclass

Unintended Impact on Others

• Others feel like they can’t keep up
• Others feel like they’ll never live up to my high standards, no matter how they try
• Others feel drained and/or overwhelmed by my unspoken neediness/wishes
• ... 4 more in Wounded Child Archetypes guidebook in Unleash Your Freedom masterclass

Gifts of the Wound

• Deeply cares and champions others to flourish into their unique brilliance
• Achieves excellence at anything and everything the mind/heart is set on
• Mama bear archetype, with generous care and support toward others
• ... 2 more in Wounded Child Archetypes guidebook in Unleash Your Freedom masterclass

Maturation + Integration Practices

• Cultivate the courage to say “no” (boundaries) and leave joy sucking people / situations
• Name and integrate all my parts, light and shadow, with humor and lightheartedness
• Practice receiving love, time, money, praise, support from others in order to thrive
• ... 4 more in Wounded Child Archetypes guidebook in Unleash Your Freedom masterclass

Ellany's Opportestiny^™

OPPORTUNITY Heal parental deficiencies	+	TEST Reclaim innocence	+	DESTINY Transmit wonder
What's YOUR OPPORTESTINTY™?

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2 • "Too much" Wounds

Archetype	False Identity	Fueled By
Freak Child	I am too different	Self-disgust
Burden Child	I am too needy	Self-pity (SI)
Too Much Child	I am too intense	Repressed anger

Symptoms + Perpetuating Behaviors

• Black sheep of the family, never really fitting in anywhere, longing for belonging
• Carry belief that life is unkind, that Earth is not made for people like me
• Suffer from severe self-doubt and/or self-hatred due to lack of loving validation of my unique traits / gifts
• ... 11 more in Wounded Child Archetypes guidebook in Unleash Your Freedom masterclass

Unintended Impact on Others

• Others perceive me as cool and indifferent when all I want is to truly belong
• Others don’t deepen intimacy with me because I rarely set any roots
• Others don’t include or invite me in, assuming that I’m not interested
• ... 6 more in Wounded Child Archetypes guidebook in Unleash Your Freedom masterclass

Gifts of the Wound

• Genuinely fosters deep sense of love, acceptance and belonging for others
• Trailblazer, trendsetter, pioneer, courageously discovering uncharted territories for all
• Highly specialized skills to champion the world to think / see outside-the-box
• ... 2 more in Wounded Child Archetypes guidebook in Unleash Your Freedom masterclass

Maturation + Integration Practices

• Develop compelling leadership that draws others to buy in to who I am and what I offer
• Join common interest groups and engage with peers while keeping unique self-expression
• Alchemize differences and conflicts into collective wisdom and lasting intimacy/partnership
• ... 4 more in Wounded Child Archetypes guidebook in Unleash Your Freedom masterclass

Ellany's Opportestiny^™

OPPORTUNITY Heal human fracture	+	TEST Reclaim belonging	+	DESTINY Transmit self-expression
What's YOUR OPPORTESTINTY™?

Symptoms + Perpetuating Behaviors

• Stay small and mousy, so not to make waves or bother anyone
• Curse of self-sufficiency (extraordinarily capable and self-reliant, thus others rarely to me, thus feeling isolated)
• Feel compulsively obligated to fix and rescue everyone/everything that is wrong
• ... 11 more in Wounded Child Archetypes guidebook in Unleash Your Freedom masterclass

Unintended Impact on Others

• Others don’t initiate giving to me because they assume I have it all together or don’t need/desire anything
• Others feel excluded by my self-reliance
• Others dump all their issues and problems on me to fix for them
• ... 6 more in Wounded Child Archetypes guidebook in Unleash Your Freedom masterclass

Gifts of the Wound

• Extremely independent, self-reliant, resourceful and creative
• Makes others feel cherished by unloading their burdens
• Capable of undertaking massive complex projects, with massive success
• ... 2 more in Wounded Child Archetypes guidebook in Unleash Your Freedom masterclass

Maturation + Integration Practices

• Select relationships that are equally giving/receiving, where neither is a burden to the other
• Connect deeply and welcome with love my feelings / needs / desires, knowing they are valid, reasonable, and essential to my well-being and to the blossoming of the world
• Develop custom rituals that invite me to powerfully take up space and express my voice
• ... 3 more in Wounded Child Archetypes guidebook in Unleash Your Freedom masterclass

Ellany's Opportestiny^™

OPPORTUNITY Heal human scarcity	+	TEST Reclaim appetite for life	+	DESTINY Transmit will to live
What's YOUR OPPORTESTINTY™?

Symptoms + Perpetuating Behaviors

• Constantly misunderstood and told to calm down, be quiet and/or stop moving
• Others are overwhelmed by largeness of my ambition, energy, speed, creativity, etc.
• Chronically suppress my needs/desires, fearing they are “too much” for others, erupting in dramatic outburst when no longer able to self-suppress
• ... 10 more in Wounded Child Archetypes guidebook in Unleash Your Freedom masterclass

Unintended Impact on Others

• Others feel left behind because they can’t keep up with me
• Others feel intimidated / threatened by me, so they dismiss, ostracize, gaslight and/or turn people against me
• Others don’t understand me, thus rarely invest in my dreams and creative pursuits
• ... 5 more in Wounded Child Archetypes guidebook in Unleash Your Freedom masterclass

Gifts of the Wound

• Original thinker and seer of solutions, not limited by conformity
• Extremely bright and competent, with huge range / depth of skills and interests
• Maverick, trailblazer and/or innovator
• ... 2 more in Wounded Child Archetypes guidebook in Unleash Your Freedom masterclass

Maturation + Integration Practices

• Create opportunities for juicy projects that match my high capacity, energy and genius
• Develop decision making strategies based on clear boundaries and strong intuition
• Refine the dance between permission for self-expression and unintended impact on others
• ... 3 more in Wounded Child Archetypes guidebook in Unleash Your Freedom masterclass

Ellany's Opportestiny^™

OPPORTUNITY Heal human ignorance	+	TEST Reclaim self-trust	+	DESTINY Transmit agency
What's YOUR OPPORTESTINTY™?

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3 • Neglect Wounds

Archetype	False Identity	Fueled By
Unsafe Child	I am unprotected	Fear
Powerless Child	I am helpless	Despair
Mistake Child	I am invalid	Dehumanization

Symptoms + Perpetuating Behaviors

• Always in state of hyper-vigilance, waiting for the other shoe to drop
• Overly naïve, open, trusting, and disclosing of intimate details before others have earned my trust, thus attracting narcissists, sociopaths and/or con artists
• Take a lot of uncalculated risks, living close to the edge, with few safety nets
• ... 9 more in Wounded Child Archetypes guidebook in Unleash Your Freedom masterclass

Unintended Impact on Others

• Others walk on eggshells around me, afraid to set off my intense reaction to “small things” that are no big deal to them, but are a huge deals to me
• Narcissists, sociopaths and/or con artists target me as easy prey
• Others are turned off or leave me because they find me very difficult to please
• ... 4 more in Wounded Child Archetypes guidebook in Unleash Your Freedom masterclass

Gifts of the Wound

• Highly perceptive and master of details
• Child-like innocence that champions authenticity, purity of heart and humor
• Makes others feel held and safe
• ... 3 more in Wounded Child Archetypes guidebook in Unleash Your Freedom masterclass

Maturation + Integration Practices

• Take time to discern people / situations instead of blinding diving all in, and only trust them after they have repeatedly demonstrated their trustworthiness
• Dis-identify self from the victim or martyr archetype, and grow into a whole being who is able to relate and witness the suffering of others with compassion, without enmeshing self
• Learn to self-soothe when anxiety, fear, and/or disappointment escalate
• ... 3 more in Wounded Child Archetypes guidebook in Unleash Your Freedom masterclass

Ellany's Opportestiny^™

OPPORTUNITY Heal human betrayal	+	TEST Reclaim peace	+	DESTINY Transmit wholeness
What's YOUR OPPORTESTINTY™?

Symptoms + Perpetuating Behaviors

• Present self as having it all together and don’t need anything from anyone
• Be a know-it-all, constantly correcting others with unsolicited advice
• Uncomfortable in a room if not holding a position of power or importance (usually the leader, rarely the follower)
• ... 11 more in Wounded Child Archetypes guidebook in Unleash Your Freedom masterclass

Unintended Impact on Others

• Others are put off by my know-it-all defense mechanism, thus not interested in befriending me
• On one extreme, others idolize me and make me their guru
• On the other extreme, others feel small and/or inadequate around me and avoid me all together
• ... 5 more in Wounded Child Archetypes guidebook in Unleash Your Freedom masterclass

Gifts of the Wound

• Champions others to rise into their own personal empowerment
• Beats at the rhythm of own drum, giving others permission to do the same
• Tremendous passion and ease for learning new things
• ... 2 more in Wounded Child Archetypes guidebook in Unleash Your Freedom masterclass

Maturation + Integration Practices

• Express my doubts and knowledge gaps vulnerably and see the power of that transparency
• Champion and feed power to others without losing own power (power is not finite)
• Trust and lean into discomfort as a way to raise my daring leadership and power
• ... 4 more in Wounded Child Archetypes guidebook in Unleash Your Freedom masterclass

Ellany's Opportestiny^™

OPPORTUNITY Heal human cruelty	+	TEST Reclaim self-compassion	+	DESTINY Transmit genius
What's YOUR OPPORTESTINTY™?

Symptoms + Perpetuating Behaviors

• Extremely high expectations of self/others to be perfect, saintly and a millionaire, all at once
• Vacillate between scapegoat “everything is my fault” and blame “everything is your fault”
• Carry belief that Life is punishing me for being born as a big mistake
• ... 11 more in Wounded Child Archetypes guidebook in Unleash Your Freedom masterclass

Unintended Impact on Others

• Others blame their problems on me because they know I’ll assume the fault
• Others make a lot of mistakes around me, lost in my roller coaster of demanding perfectionism and disappearing off the face of the earth
• Others find me disingenuous and/or awkward and walk on eggshells around me
• ... 3 more in Wounded Child Archetypes guidebook in Unleash Your Freedom masterclass

Gifts of the Wound

• Passionate champion of non-conformity
• Huge capacity for creativity and willing to take on massive responsibilities for advancement of humanity
• Carries for the world the hope of a better future
• ... 2 more in Wounded Child Archetypes guidebook in Unleash Your Freedom masterclass

Maturation + Integration Practices

• Work smarter, not harder. Choose depth over speed. Pull back to launch forward.
• Graciously decline opportunities that sound thrilling, but don’t fit onto my already full plate
• Create and stick to structures that provide more order / enjoyment / freedom (eg. auto-bill payment, writing buddy, colorful post-it mindmap, accountability partner, etc.)
• ... 3 more in Wounded Child Archetypes guidebook in Unleash Your Freedom masterclass

Ellany's Opportestiny^™

OPPORTUNITY Heal human contempt	+	TEST Reclaim validity	+	DESTINY Transmit equity
What's YOUR OPPORTESTINTY™?

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4 • Existence Wounds

Archetype	False Identity	Fueled By
Invisible Child	I don't matter	Apathy
Abandoned Child	I am unwanted	Grief
Disposable Child	I am worthless	Self-hatred

Symptoms + Perpetuating Behaviors

• Live in chronic stress / fear that it’s dangerous to be seen (eg. I’ll be burnt at the stake or hacked down to pieces)
• Shy, always redirect focus on others to hide true self
• Over-give to others, at my own expense
• ... 11 more in Wounded Child Archetypes guidebook in Unleash Your Freedom masterclass

Unintended Impact on Others

• Others gloss over me, don’t ask how I am and/or forget they’ve met me before
• Others are self-absorbed in relationship with me and punish me if I suddenly express my feelings/needs/desires
• Others enjoy how important and seen they feel when around me, but don’t reciprocate the same level of attentiveness
• ... 4 more in Wounded Child Archetypes guidebook in Unleash Your Freedom masterclass

Gifts of the Wound

• Innate superpower to see the invisible and hear the unspoken
• Profoundly trustworthy, making others feel deeply safe, seen and cherished
• Deeply insightful, intuitive, empathetic, discerning, compassionate, nurturing, and peaceful to be around
• ... 2 more in Wounded Child Archetypes guidebook in Unleash Your Freedom masterclass

Maturation + Integration Practices

• Initiate my own authentic leadership without waiting for others to invite me
• Create relationships where my / others’ needs can both be present and mutually met
• Connect deeply to my soul’s purpose and express / share my greatness in creative ways
• ... 3 more in Wounded Child Archetypes guidebook in Unleash Your Freedom masterclass

Ellany's Opportestiny^™

OPPORTUNITY Heal human unconsciousnes	+	TEST Reclaim validity	+	DESTINY Transmit radiance
What's YOUR OPPORTESTINTY™?

Symptoms + Perpetuating Behaviors

• Isolate my entire life inside chronic self-sufficiency and/or addictions
• Contort self to be what others want to be loved, accepted and/or validated
• Overstay relationships because I can’t bear abandoning others and/or being alone
• ... 10 more in Wounded Child Archetypes guidebook in Unleash Your Freedom masterclass

Unintended Impact on Others

• Others have no clue who I truly am, since I shape shift so often to suit who they need / desire me to be
• Others are repulsed by or keep their distance from my heavy victim energy
• Others find me unapproachable, difficult, and/or draining to be around
• ... 5 more in Wounded Child Archetypes guidebook in Unleash Your Freedom masterclass

Gifts of the Wound

• Highly independent and exceptionally competent and resourceful
• Huge capacity for deep, heart-centered, soulful connection with others
• Achieves extraordinary results
• ... 2 more in Wounded Child Archetypes guidebook in Unleash Your Freedom masterclass

Maturation + Integration Practices

• Foster a deep, whole and loving relationship with self so that I always have Me by my side
• Develop resilience and trust in the overall goodness of Life, especially in the face of grief
• Practice authenticity and vulnerability to allow others to know the real me, so they are compelled to care for, champion and/or give to me
• ... 3 more in Wounded Child Archetypes guidebook in Unleash Your Freedom masterclass

Ellany's Opportestiny^™

OPPORTUNITY Heal human primitiveness	+	TEST Reclaim nurturance	+	DESTINY Transmit identity
What's YOUR OPPORTESTINTY™?

Symptoms + Perpetuating Behaviors

• Give away my resources (time, energy, money, body, services, etc.) for very little or nothing in return, as if they were disposable
• Chronically borrow against my own safety and well-being, thus perpetually feeling depleted or indebted
• Overstay miserable relationships and/or flee at the first sign of conflict
• ... 11 more in Wounded Child Archetypes guidebook in Unleash Your Freedom masterclass

Unintended Impact on Others

• Others feel entitled to my kindness and generosity, thus becoming freeloaders
• Others don’t even notice/remember me
• Others don’t see my value-add, so are not inspired to support me
• ... 6 more in Wounded Child Archetypes guidebook in Unleash Your Freedom masterclass

Gifts of the Wound

• Deeply sensitive to the suffering of others, with huge compassion / kindness
• Extraordinary capacity to see the true value of people and situations
• Humble and intuitive, with leadership to inspire others to rise in consciousness
• ... 2 more in Wounded Child Archetypes guidebook in Unleash Your Freedom masterclass

Maturation + Integration Practices

• Explore activities / people that bring me joy and make them a necessity and priority
• Practice receiving gracefully, letting go of guilt or reactive auto-reciprocation
• Listen to needs / desires of others, without rushing to rescue or take them on as my duty
• ... 4 more in Wounded Child Archetypes guidebook in Unleash Your Freedom masterclass

Ellany's Opportestiny^™

OPPORTUNITY Heal gender inequality	+	TEST Reclaim worth	+	DESTINY Transmit dignity
What's YOUR OPPORTESTINTY™?

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 The first 40 years of childhood are the hardest.

No kidding.

(First Published Aug 28, 2019)