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Truth Biscuits for our Most Vulnerable Parts Need to Hear
A series of 24 truth biscuits to install peace and levity in your heart and work. Use them to conjure your own truth medicine for what your Parts most need to hear.
Grief Autopsy • Name the Losses to Find What You Seek
You cannot find what you don’t know you lost. Was it even a loss if you never had it in the first place, such as worth, belonging, or childhood? A Grief Autopsy dissects ambiguous grief hands on. If you don't let your past die, it won't let you live.
Parts Integration • Know your Whole Self. Wholeness is Freedom.
Have you ever felt torn: a part wants this... another part wants that... but this part fears X... and that other part must have Y? Feel a little at war with yourself? What if you could integrate all your parts into one harmonious whole, one voice, one mind-heart-body-soul?
4 Types of Knowing • Reclaim a Full Set of Knowing
This is bad for us, yet we keep doing it. This is good for us, yet we don't do it. Why? Because mind-knowing (conceptual) is not enough. We need a full set of: heart-knowing (emotional), body-knowing (experiential) and soul-knowing (universal) to create and sustain change.
Fulfillment Chessboard • Discern Passion, Calling, Mission, Profession and Career
There is an exquisite Fulfilling Freedom at the intersection of: Skill, Love, Need, Money, and Sustainability. We can be so amnesiac about our progress. This is why tracking, seeing, and re-seeing our progress is soooooo crucial.
Reinvention Carousel • Unlearn and Relearn Identity and Creativity
There are 16 options for reinventing your identity, whether it be a business, brand, or creative identity. Each carry different levels of: success, suffering, joy and fear. Which merry-go-round will you ride?
10 Types of Freedom • What Freedoms Would You Add to Cart?
After a talk I gave last year, audience members asked me what fuelled / drove my quest for freedom. "All I've ever wanted... is to be free," those words fell out of my jaw for the first time.
Labyrinth of Fears • Unmask the 25 Faces of Fear
Turns out there aren’t 25 different types of fear. There is one root fear, which wears 25 different masks. If you could unmask each one, could you become fearless, as in less afraid? If you practiced fear dissolution, could you become fear-free? Let’s explore.
9 Year Growth Cycles • Flow with your Natural Rhythms and Seasons
Do you flow with or against the natural season of your Life? You're not a goddamn salmon! You do NOT have to swim upstream against the current. When flowing with your season, there is an ease, a peace. When you force against it, you crawl on porcupines. What will you chose?
My Opportestiny • Put Humpty Dumpty back together again
Have you ever fallen off a great wall and painstakingly put yourself back together again? That has a name, it's called: Opportestiny.
"Whatever pain you can’t get rid of, make it your creative offering." – Susan Cain
"Whatever pain you can’t get rid of, make it your creative offering." – Susan Cain
Wounded Child Archetypes • Name the wounds. Shed the lies. Free the soul.
Name the wounds. Shed the lies. Free the soul. Want to lead a revolution, unleash a masterpiece, or liberate yourself / this world? Then identify your top Wounded Child Archetypes to make a fuel change and reclaim your energy, peace, time, and freedom.
Tao of Creativity • Transform Inspiration into Actualization
Creativity follows a tao [Chinese: 道], which means path, from chakra to chakra. Any blockage along the way can abort creativity. What are these blockages? Watch this wisdom video to stop living with foot on the gas pedal, but handbrake on.
My 16 Careers • Reinventing Identities as a Spiritual Guide (Part 16/16)
All these spiritual flues, energetic ascensions, and mystical experiences, I never asked for any of them. Did I? I feel like I made a heap of choices before coming to Earth, but I can't remember most of them. Would I have lived differently if I remembered those choices?
Flow States • Sustain Creative Joy and Longevity
Working in Flow state, with skill and challenge levels optimal to you, is like smoothing the ice then sliding your ideas across the surface. Or would you rather carry the load on your shoulders up a jagged volcano?
Stress Responses • Return to Safety from Fight, Flight, Freeze, and Fawn
As a freedompreneur, your business is a vehicle to free yourself and others, not an ambulance straight to the Emergency Room (or the grave ⚰️😛). If you don't consciously down-regulate your stress, you and your business will not reach the finish line.
Branding with Sacred Archetypes • Break the rules. Choose your truth. Be your Self.
Break the rules. Choose your truth. Be your Self. Need guidance on how to articulate a clear Why (purpose), a unique How (approach) and a precise What (offer)? Then identify your top Sacred Brand Archetypes to gracefully weave your soul, genius, products and services under one harmonious brand.
The Liberator's Journey... for a Freedom Seeker (Part 3)
What happens after we return home, powerful and whole? The hungry freedom seeker is about to transform into a fulfilled liberator on The Liberator's Journey...
The Heroine's Journey... for a Woman Overachiever (Part 2)
Instead of transforming a hero from lone outcast to victorious warrior, The Heroine's Journey transforms a heroine from abandoned girl to reclaimed goddess....
The Hero's Journey... for a Lifestyle Entrepreneur (Part 1)
Anytime you're about to do something new, different, or daring, whether you know it or not, you are embarking on a quest. Joseph Campbell coined this quest The Hero's Journey...
Creative Devotion • 14 Lessons on Masterpiece Making
Here are 14 Lessons from my "6-Month Writing Devotional" aka “Dredging my psyche for bodies" aka "Worst 6 months of my life." I do NOT recommend it. But if you are mad enough to proceed, you will be so freeeeeed. Apply these lessons to re/creating an identity, business, book, revolution, or life worth living. You have been warned. 😉
Writing Devotional • That's the goal, to survive your gift
If it took 10 years to cultivate the seeds of your masterpiece, would you? If it took another 10 years before reaping the harvest, would you? It’s been 8 years and 3 months of space clawing, shards treading, fire palming and tear tagging. Why?!?
Spiritual Quotient (SoulQ) • Shift from Ego Driven to Soul Lead
This is the universal human paradox: how do we live with a "phenomenal cosmic power" soul in an "itty bitty" human body (that has gargantuan incessant needs) on a tiny 3rd rock from the sun, amongst ~ 40 000 000 000 000 000 000 000 stars.
8 Ways Simplero Eliminated Multiple Systems Chaos
I was spending $240/month!! And even then, I was missing functions that I needed. Now I just use Simplero.com as an all-in-one solution for $169/month.
Self-Development Junkie • Investing $100k/10/98 to Reclaim Freedom
Are you a self-development junkie too? Have you signed up for every retreat that sparked your soul, every workshop that tickled your mind, and every healing modality that soothed your heart? I have...
Core Values • Consciously Choose your Inner Compass
Do you ever wonder why you do certain things, and why you don't do certain things? On our path of personal growth, most everything can be traced back to our core values...
Power of Sequencing • Top 4 Solopreneur "Wrong Order" Case Studies
If given one match, a lantern, and a map, would you use the match to light the lantern to see the map... or use the match to burn the map and fumble in the dark?
The Art and Paradox of Non-Belonging • 20 Strange Ways I Don't Belong
The Universe pumped adventure into my lungs, but clipped my canary wings. The Universe encoded freedom into my soul, but shackled every limb with gender, filial piety, birth order, personality, cultural, and social chains.
The Overachiever's Hierarchy of Needs
Today, I'm writing to you from Odessa, Ukraine. Totally did not plan on being here. The only thing I knew about Ukraine is that the Ukrainian figure skater Oksana Baiul who won the gold medal in 1994. And the only thing I knew about Odessa is that it's by the sea. I love the sea <3
Filial Piety & Overcompensation • Why Skyholders, Money Trees and Immigrant Children Are Burnt Out
Ever since I was little, I was called a "money tree." You shake it and money is supposed to fall out. It wasn't until I realized the insidious role of "filial piety" that I understood what drives overachievers and children of immigrants to burnout.
Adopted Family • Five Degrees of Joy Mirroring (Soul-knowing)
Mama Bear always looked at me with a sparkle of "You. Are. A. Bringer. Of. Joy." Me, joy? As if. But after 5 degrees of mirroring, I couldn't deny it anymore. They didn't see joy in me. They saw me as joy. I was the joy. Could it be?
Flying 52-in-52 • Joy Multiplies When Shared (Heart-knowing)
While handgliding, I felt an invisible force that I couldn't name. Then during a 56-countries-in-52-weeks trip that I did NOT plan or see coming, I felt it again, like a sidekick with a headset that guided me, as I James Bond-ed through that year.
Fields of Gold • Removing the Barriers to Joy (Body-knowing)
During a healing session in Bali, I couldn't perceive or discern my left foot from my right ear. I couldn't feel myself... as if... I had... no self. Through Fields of Gold, my body cried marble tears and felt joy for the very first time.
Mysterious Stuwvyxz • What's your Capacity for Joy? (Mind-knowing)
I was once asked, "What's your capacity for Stuwvyxz?" I don't know. What's Stuwvyxz? I tossed that inquiry in the junk drawer of "Things I Never Knew Existed". Thanks to a rom-com, my mind eventually figured out what Stuwvyxz is.
Private Journals on Somatic Experiencing and Healing Trauma
Will I ever be ok? In this cruel, harsh world? Can I even trust my memories? Or lack thereof? What's real and not real anymore? Isn't healing supposed to restore my energy, not drain it?
Passive Trauma • How Every Human Has Some PTSD
I spent months uneasy with the diagnosis of PTSD. In my ego-construct, PTSD was exclusively reserved for war veterans, refugees, and car crash and assault victims. It turns out, shame had me believe that I wasn't worthy of the PTSD diagnosis, ie of its healing...
Life Purpose Petals • Why Am I Here?
Have you ever caught yourself sobbing "It's not fair!" or ripping your hair out "But that makes no sense!?!" We didn't come here for fairness or sense making. Our souls came here to: grow, love, be loved, enjoy and be of service.
The Barf Bucket • How I Purged Patriarchy from my Body
Our wounds from our Family of Origin are often not about the parent or the perpetrator, but a window into larger forces at play: Sacred Contracts and karmic agreements. There is no overnight healing, but you can get your hands on a "Get Out of Jail Free" card from systemic patriarchy.
Filial Piety • How Asian Parents Sow the Seeds of "Not Enough" and Self-hatred
Ever come home from school with a 99% and had your Asian parent ask you where the 1% went? How about coming home with 109% and still being asked there the 1% went. When the voice of "You're not enough!" are internalized, it turns to shame. Then under the magnifying glass of filial piety, it turns to self-hatred.
The Roasted Butterfly • How Overachievers and the Restless Self-destruct from Shiny Object Syndrome
Do you have Shiny Object Syndrome, aka ADD / ADHD, aka as Squirrel!!! 🐿🐿 🐿 Have you ever been over-zealous, saw something shiny, touched it then got burned?
Power of Iterations • How I Unleashed my Masterclass Organically
I once stumbled upon an e-course called "Create your Damn E-course" and it made me chuckle because without even realizing it, people were damning their own e-courses right from the beginning. No wonder they never finished the e-course, didn't launch it, or launched it but made no money.
Power of Iterations • How I Unleashed my Boutique Brand Organically
This week, doing the right things in the right order is the focus. You must know your ideal client before you tailor your curriculum to their deepest needs.You must build a dream team (even if it just starts with one, plus you) before you dive into recording/editing or you won't make it to the finish line...
Power of Iterations • How I Unleashed my Genius Organically
There is faaaaaar too much hype around "Make $90,000 in 90 Days!", "Be Famous in Five Minutes!", "Six weeks to Six-figures!", or "11 Day E-course Challenge". I'm not saying that those claims don't work. I'm saying that it's not the full picture. I'm saying what they're not saying...