Dare to Lead™: From Armored Leadership to Daring Leadership

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Driving Perfectionism and Fostering Fear of Failure

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Modeling and Encouraging Healthy Striving, Empathy, and Self-Compassion

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Working from Scarcity and Squandering Opportunities for Joy and Recognition

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Practicing Gratitude and Celebrating Milestones and Victories

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Numbing

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Setting Boundaries and Finding Real Comfort

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Propagating the False Dichotomy of Victim or Viking, Crush or Be Crushed

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Practicing Integration—Strong Back, Soft Front, Wild Heart

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Being a Knower and Being Right

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Being a Learner and Getting It Right

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Hiding Behind Cynicism

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Modeling Clarity, Kindness, and Hope

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Using Criticism as Self-Protection

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Making Contributions and Taking Risks

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Using Power Over

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Using Power With, Power To, and Power Within

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Hustling for Our Worth

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Knowing Our Value

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Leading for Compliance and Control

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Cultivating Commitment and Shared Purpose

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Weaponizing Fear and Uncertainty

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Acknowledging, Naming, and Normalizing Collective Fear and Uncertainty

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Rewarding Exhaustion as a Status Symbol and Attaching Productivity to Self-Worth

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Modeling and Supporting Rest, Play, and Recovery

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Tolerating Discrimination, Echo Chambers, and a “Fitting In” Culture

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Cultivating a Culture of Belonging, Inclusivity, and Diverse Perspectives

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Collecting Gold Stars

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Giving Gold Stars

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Zigzagging and Avoiding

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Straight Talking and Taking Action

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Leading from Hurt

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Leading from Heart