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Freedom Masks • Unfulfilling Freedom (Part 1)

In this series...
Unfulfilling Freedom
Untethered Freedom
Mirage Freedom
Shifting Tides Freedom

It's story time! Meet Rose.

By all external standards, Rose has made it. She has 47 real estate properties, more money than she could ever need, and doesn’t have to work another day in her life. She flies business class anywhere in the world and spends half the year sailing around Hawaii with her family, watching sunsets and swimming with turtles. She has made it, right?


Though she has all the means to hire help, she finds herself time starved, constantly running around, doing random nothings, exhausted at the end of the day, with no idea where she’s been and where she’s going. She’s self-aware enough to know that she’s using busyness to numb the creative starvation inside.


Through our coaching and spiritual work, she finally gave herself permission to admit that all the blessings of health, family, love and financial freedom isn’t fulfilling enough. (Are you shocked? She has it all... from the outside.) The more she felt creatively starved, the more she used random busyness as a mask, and the more that busyness doused her creative flame. A vicious cycle!


Nobody noticed under her exterior freedom masks, but I did. I knew she yearned to create something from the depths of her soul, which is her unique legacy on the world, beyond buying and selling property and investments.

We did Sacred Archetypes work for her to remember the Sacred Contracts her soul made with the Universe. Then her creativity flowed and her time was reclaimed.

Are you Rose? Does everything look peachy on the outside, but your soul is creatively starved on the inside? Do you ask yourself about your legacy and as a lifelong learner, what are you here to teach?


1. We all have joys, we all have struggles. Don't judge others by the external masks of freedom they wear. Even if you see someone with laptop and cocktails on a beach, it doesn't mean they're having a good time. I tested it on postcard perfect beaches in Bali, Thailand and the Philippines: the sun is too bright, the laptop overheats, the wifi is crappy and sand keeps sprouting legs and crawling into my keyboard. So not fun.

2. Don't judge yourself based on others perceived level of freedom or success. Comparing your beginning to someone else's middle or your middle to someone else's end only hurts yourself. It's the same as drinking poison hoping the other person will die.

Is that what your ego wants, self-hurt? Of course not. But since the ego's one and only job is self-preservation, if using self-hurt as a tactic to keep you small and safe works, then that's what it'll do!


Next week, we'll meet Lily, who wears another type of freedom mask, the untethered type.

Live fierce and free,

xo, Ella

(First Published Apr 14, 2020)



Having navigated 131 countries, 87 emotions, 46.5 traumas, and 16 careers, Ellany Lea inspires and guides phoenixes, overachievers, entrepreneurs and wayshowers to live fierce, fulfilled and free.